What is Your Why?


Have you ever got so caught up in the mundane, day-to-day hustle and bustle of life that you forget why? Why what, you ask. Why you do what you do. Why do you wake up every morning? Why do you work so hard day in and day out? I can say I’ve had this happen to me a many days, but over the past 5 years my why has gotten to be much clearer.

For starters, I have two beautiful little angels (even though they don’t always act like it) God gave me who call me mom. They are my why. They are my daily motivation that keeps me going. I do not want my children to look at TV and mimic someone they know nothing about simply because they are a celebrity. I want my babies to know what right looks like because they have a first hand picture of it every day when they see their mommy. I am so happy they are in my life to celebrate and be happy with me in the good. I am also happy that they are here to see my bad so they can see how I get myself back up and keep on going. My children are my why because they push me to work hard and be a better me on a regular basis.

Another reason why I do what I do is because about a year and a half ago I made up in my mind that I was going to live on purpose. Let me be a bit more specific, I was going to live in the purpose that God created me for. God created each and every one of us for a purpose. It’s up to us, however, if we are going to embrace that purpose and walk in it.  I know one of my purposes in life is to overcome all the negativity in world.  My assignment is to encourage, uplift, motivate and inspire people in all walks of life.  I desire to help push individuals to not only think beyond their present situation but push them to live on purpose.  How amazing would it be if everyone actually lived on purpose, if everyone did what they know they were created to do???

How do I plan to live on purpose? This is actually something I am learning each and every day. My first step was to start my website – letstalkaboutlife365.com, next I published my first book Let’s Talk Life: A New Perspective and to be honest I really do not know what my next move will be. I do know, however, that God knows my heart.  While I wait to hear from Him for my next move, I’ll keep working with what I have. I do not care what it takes, but I will continue to live on purpose helping one person at a time. Loving one person at a time. Reaching one person at a time.

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Now I leave you with this…what is your why? Why do you do what you do? Why are you working hard everyday? Are you living for a paycheck or are you living to make a difference?

Thought Check:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 KJV

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Sweet Treats from the Heart


Do you have a set schedule? A list of activities that you do on a regular basis, such as work, school, errands, etc? Is there something on that list that is for you? Something that you do to help get your mind off of your regular mundane day-to-day activities. It is important that you have this place of escape not only to keep you sane, but also to maintain balance. This is why I support Renae’s Cake Revelation.

Owner Renae McFadden, who is also an active duty combat war veteran, started Renae’s Cake Revelation. Baking was something she always loved to do because it gave her an escape and sense of peace from everything going on around her. It wasn’t until a little over 3 years ago that she really took her baking seriously and decided to share this wonderful gift that God has given her with other people. When asked how what she does motivates, inspires or encourages other people her response was, “Baking cakes is something I am very passionate about. Sometimes I do find it challenging because I work a full-time job but I don’t think God would bless me with a talent and not expect me to share it. I taught myself to decorate cakes by watching videos and trial and error. I recently completed my very first cake decorating class. I would have never dreamed that I would actually be baking cakes for birthdays and special occasions for others.”


It is an amazing thing when your passion turns into an opportunity then that opportunity turns into success. God is just amazing like that. He has placed so many gifts and talents on the inside of us, but He’s waiting on us to step out on faith and share those gifts with the world. Even if you are a bit apprehensive at first, Renae’s Cake Revelation is proof that you can be successful. Follow your dreams, you never know where they may take you.  Her hard work, dedication, commitment and trust in God is what has made Renae as successful as she is. She recently relocated to Junction City, KS by way of the military and her business is already growing tremendously. She is gaining new clients on a regular basis and was recently a featured vendor at the Junction City Juneteenth Celebration. She also gives back to the community once a month by donating a custom cake to a family in need.


If you would like to see more of the awesome cakes and cupcakes by Renae’s Cake Revelation, check out her Facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/pages/Renaes-Cake-Revelation/365130400245527?ref=hl. She can also be reached via email at renaescakerevelation@gmail.com.

I support Renae’s Cake Revelation and I encourage you to do the same. I don’t know about you, but I love a good dessert. I’ve had both the cakes and cupcakes from Renae’s Cake Revelation and trust me when I say, they are yummy. Still not convinced, she can also provide samples so you can try it yourself. If you’re in the Junction City area, and need a cake or cupcakes made that are not only cute but taste delicious, Renae’s Cake Revelation is the way to go. Sweet treats made from the heart. Bon Appetit!



The Reality of Reality…


I decided to take a hiatus from television for about a year or so a while back.  This was not something that was extremely hard for me because outside of football and an occasional show here or there, I am not a big fan of watching television anyway.  Seems like now and days though all that’s on television are reality shows. I guess it is safe to say they are very popular, since so many networks have them.  Why is that?  Why are people so captivated by what appears to be the reality of other people’s life?  Not to mention the fact that there aren’t many positive messages being sent through these shows, so why are we drawn to such negativity?  Does the reality of another individual’s mess make yours seem less relevant?  Or do you just like seeing other people’s drama?  Cause that is exactly what it is drama, both figuratively and literally.

Although you may look at the glitz and glamour of who or what you think you see on TV and like to compare it to your own life, the fact of the matter is this…reality is a state of mind.  Reality is whatever refuses to go away even when you stop believing in it. Perception is reality.  You are the only one who creates your reality.  And let me just throw this out there.  Do not, I repeat DO NOT allow the opinions of others to impact you.  That is their reality, not yours.

Now let me ask you this, what is your reality?  No script, no actors just the real deal of who you are.  Before you can change it, you have to first acknowledge it.  If you’re doing well right now, that’s your reality so acknowledge it.  On the flip side, if you’re not doing too well right now, that’s your reality so acknowledge it.  To know your reality is to accept it.  At that point you can decide if you want to change it or embrace it.

Do you have a dream?  Aspirations? Goals?  My challenge to you is to work hard and make it a reality.  Matter fact, make it your reality.  Dreams will only be dreams until you wake up and make it happen.  You are the only one who creates your reality. That’s the reality of what life is all about.


Thought Check:

Philippians 4:8-9 ESV “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”

Romans 8:28 ESV “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

Genesis 1:27 ESV “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

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