The Reality of Reality…

I decided to take a hiatus from television for about a year or so a while back.  This was not something that was extremely hard for me because outside of football and an occasional show here or there, I am not a big fan of watching television anyway.  Seems like now and days though all that’s on television are reality shows. I guess it is safe to say they are very popular, since so many networks have them.  Why is that?  Why are people so captivated by what appears to be the reality of other people’s life?  Not to mention the fact that there aren’t many positive messages being sent through these shows, so why are we drawn to such negativity?  Does the reality of another individual’s mess make yours seem less relevant?  Or do you just like seeing other people’s drama?  Cause that is exactly what it is drama, both figuratively and literally.

Although you may look at the glitz and glamour of who or what you think you see on TV and like to compare it to your own life, the fact of the matter is this…reality is a state of mind.  Reality is whatever refuses to go away even when you stop believing in it. Perception is reality.  You are the only one who creates your reality.  And let me just throw this out there.  Do not, I repeat DO NOT allow the opinions of others to impact you.  That is their reality, not yours.

Now let me ask you this, what is your reality?  No script, no actors just the real deal of who you are.  Before you can change it, you have to first acknowledge it.  If you’re doing well right now, that’s your reality so acknowledge it.  On the flip side, if you’re not doing too well right now, that’s your reality so acknowledge it.  To know your reality is to accept it.  At that point you can decide if you want to change it or embrace it.

Do you have a dream?  Aspirations? Goals?  My challenge to you is to work hard and make it a reality.  Matter fact, make it your reality.  Dreams will only be dreams until you wake up and make it happen.  You are the only one who creates your reality. That’s the reality of what life is all about.

Thought Check:

Philippians 4:8-9 ESV “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”

Romans 8:28 ESV “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

Genesis 1:27 ESV “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

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Focused and Determined


            What does it mean to be focused and determined?  When I looked it up, one of the many definitions for focus is the center of interest or activity.  I did the same for determined and came up with having made a firm decision and resolving not to change it.  These are two concepts I feel we should all purpose in our hearts to live by.  Is it easy?  Absolutely not.  You have to have enough will power deep down inside of you to keep moving forward, no matter what.  Stuff happens and when it does, often times it can catch you off guard.  Little things here and there, I call these distractions.  I’d even say that it really seems like more of these distractions seem to transpire when you are actually trying to stay focused, compared to if you are just breezing through life with no goals or ambition.  That being said, when you find your purpose in life, make a firm decision that you are going to fulfill that purpose.  In order to this however, the ability to not sweat the small stuff must be present.  We must learn to pick and choose our battles.  Do only those things that are most important and leave those other things alone.  They are simply a diversion meant to get you off course.

As an online college Instructor, one of the first things I tell my students when they start my class is to be prepared for any and everything.  I suggest that they have a backup computer, back up internet access, work ahead to complete each week’s assignment, just overall stay ahead of the game.  The reason I encourage them to do this is because should anything happen, they will be prepared.  Preparation is half the battle for successfully completing the course, which in turn will push them towards their goal of obtaining a college degree.

Whatever it is you have going on in life, let today be the day you decide to get focused and determined towards fulfilling the purpose and plans that lie ahead of you.  We have to be like Paul in Philippians 3:14, and press forward towards the prize. I decree and declare on this day that God is planning to do something new in your life.  Out with the old, let’s focus on the new.  Are you ready for it?  #iDeclare #focusedanddetermined

My challenge to you:

Don’t focus on today’s struggle, focus on tomorrow’s victory.

Don’t pray about a job, pray for a company.

Don’t look for a way out, determine to find a way up!

You got this! Just keep pressing forward!!!


Heavenly Father, I come as humbly as I know how first to say thank you.  Thank you for your grace and mercy Lord.  Thank you for your loving kindness and for the favor that you have on my life.  I decree and declare that I will live a life that is focused and determined, not allowing anything to get in my way or stop me from moving forward.  I bind any distractions or stumbling blocks right now in the name of Jesus.  In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.


Proverbs 4:25 ESV “Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.”

1 Corinthians 9:24 NLT “Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win!”