Stop Playing the Blame Game


I have issues, you have issues, we all have issues. It’s how we deal with those issues I want to talk about today. Seems like lately, everyone wants to play the blame game. I keep hearing people talk about their problems and in their conversation there seems to almost always be someone else to blame. This really bothers me because it seems like no one wants to take responsibility for their own actions anymore.  That’s taking the easy way out. When there are problems, situations or unwanted circumstances in life whether it be past or present, why not look at yourself and see what you can do differently?  Instead of focusing on what someone else did or did not do, get your mind right. Perspective is everything. Focus on you. Hold yourself accountable. You have no control over the actions of other people. You can however, control you.

That is how my book, Let’s Talk Life: A New Perspective was birthed. I went through many ups and downs in a very short season in my life. In that time God began to show me, me. He wouldn’t even allow me to point the finger and focus on the actions of others (even though I wanted to very badly). Instead, he used my pain and heartache to grow me up. Me focusing on the actions, or lack there of, of other people would have caused me to stay in the same space I was in.  Which means I would have never been able to grow.  There is some stuff on the inside of you that only God can get out, but you have to get to a place where you’re willing. You must be willing to acknowledge your faults, if to no one else but to God. The fact of the matter is, you will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now. If you want to be successful. If you want to be victorious. If you want to be the wonderful, awesome person that you were created to be stop blaming everyone else for everything and take responsibility for you. Make a decision. Be the change you’d like to see in others.

Thought Check:

Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. (Romans 12:3 NLT)

For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. (Matthew 7:2 NIV)

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Your Word is Your Bond


There was a time when a person gave their word, one could be certain that the promise would be kept.  Now and days it just seems as though many people say one thing and five minutes later turn around and do something else.  The part about it that is even worse is that they have no conviction about it.  Whatever happened to your word being your bond?  Why does it seem so hard to just do the right thing and have some integrity?  Integrity is something that is proven over time by our behavior.  In my opinion, it is a reputation of trustworthiness.  When you say you are going to do it, then do it and if you can’t be man or woman enough to then say so.  Even better, simply think about what you say before you say it so that you are not making a commitment you cannot fulfill.  Do not be afraid to take a moment to think before answering a question.  Use wisdom.  I had to learn to do this because on multiple occasions I put myself in situations when I would say something with good intentions, but when it came time to actually fulfill that commitment it was a lot more than I had anticipated.  We have to get to a place of individual accountability and take responsibility for not only our actions or lack thereof, but our words as well.

Here is something to think about, when people have a good talk game, which is what I like to call it, but their deeds do not line up that eventually leads to a lie making the person who didn’t keep their word a liar.  Just in case you do not know, a liar is a person who is not honest and cannot be trusted because they do not speak with truth out of their mouth.  No one likes to be called a liar.  One must understand however that lying is not just when someone asks you something and you answer with a false response.  Lying is saying you are going to do something and never do.  Every time you go back on your word, the value of what you say decreases.  Here is where that integrity I was talking about earlier comes in.  If not for you, have enough respect and reverence for God.  He sees all and knows all, so if you love Him and don’t want to disappoint Him then think twice before you communicate so you don’t disappoint your creator.  I leave you with this, what’s your word worth?  Is your word truly your bond?  #iDeclare #yourwordisyourbond



Father God in the name of Jesus, help me Lord to keep my word.  Please forgive me for times when I have said I was going to do something and did not follow through.  I decree and declare on this day that I will think before I speak and I will hold myself accountable for what I say and do.  Thank you God for hearing my prayer and for helping me to be more mindful of the speech that comes out of my mouth.  I am not a liar and I will not allow my carelessness in dialogue to cause me to sin.  Thank you Jesus for helping me be more cognizant and operate with a spirit of integrity and uprightness.  In Jesus name, Amen. 

Scripture Reference:

Proverbs 12:22 NIV “The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.”

Ephesians 4:29 ESV “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”