Are You A Good Communicator???

Have you ever been talking to someone and after the conversation is over realized that they could have totally taken what you just said the wrong way? Or even had them respond to you in such a way that let you know they took what you said the wrong way?  This has happened to me a few times and I do not like it one bit.  I’ve come to learn that sometimes it’s not so much what you say to people, but how you say it.  This is where personalities come into play.  Some people have a very straightforward personality, others are more quiet and shy.  Whichever personality fits you, it is imperative that you be mindful of how you communicate.

Communication with others consists of more than just talking, it also requires listening.  Listening is important because it will show you the heart of the other person.  The bible declares that out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.  When you are a good listener, you are able to pin point areas you know are important, just based on their conversation.  Sometimes it’s best to be quiet and listen.  Not everyone who talks to you in looking for feedback. Some just want a person who will be kind enough to lend an ear and hear what is on their heart.

Our communication style should fit our personality, yet still do so in a way that is loving and kind to others.  It is one thing to have a strong personality, but if you are too strong you will never be able to have a healthy relationship with others.  Reason being is because of your inability to set your ways to the side for just a moment for the sake of someone else.  We have to get to the point where we can express ourselves in a nonabrasive, yet affirming manner regardless of who we are talking to.  Remembering that whatever we do or say should always be in love.  Words can really hurt and tear someone down.  Sometimes the enemy will try to take your words and use them that very way, when you never intended it to be that way.  I’ve learned to pray prior to, after and sometimes during my conversations with others to cancel the assignment of the enemy to try mix up my words.  I also pray that God will speak through me, so that when I do open my mouth, I am not saying anything to hurt someone or cause them to take my words out of context.  I realize that miscommunication happens, but as with all things, we have to ask God to help us.  Communication is a way of life.  It is the key to any successful relationship, so we have to do our part to make sure we are communicating properly and effectively.  The next time you are in the middle of a conversation and you don’t like how things are going, stop and think for a moment.  Are you a good communicator? #iDeclare #AreYouAGoodCommunicator


Father God, Please help me to be a good communicator.  My desire is that you will use me and I know that in order to do so, I have to work on my communication skills.  I decree and declare that I will say what I mean and mean what I say. I will be lead by the Holy Spirit in my conversations, and I will not allow the enemy to contort my words to be taken the wrong way.  Thank you Jesus, for teaching me how to be an effective communicator.  In Jesus name, Amen.



Scripture Reference:

Proverbs 15:1 NLT “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”

Psalms 141:3 NLT “Take control of what I say, O LORD, and guard my lips.”

1 Corinthians 15:33 KJV “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”


The Talk


            One of the things that I am most passionate about in this Christian journey is getting people to understand prayer.  Prayer is so powerful. It is life changing, and most importantly it is our direct line of communication with God.  Communication is essentially the foundation for any relationship.  I know we’ve seen people pray many different ways, what I’ve learned however is that there is no set way of praying.  Some like to scream and shout, others may be soft-spoken or whisper and some prayers may even be in your head.  Whichever method you prefer is fine because God hears them all. Right now, I don’t want to focus so much on the method.  I want to focus on the necessity.  For those who have children, think about how talking to your children makes you feel.  It builds your relationship.  It allows you to learn more about them and even see where their head is.  It strengthens the foundation and love that you have for one another.  Now, if we know that God is our Heavenly Father how do you think He feels when His children communicate with Him?  He feels the same way.  When we talk to God, it builds our relationship.  It helps us grow spiritually and we are able to learn more and more about Him.  When we pray that’s when things begin to change.  Prayer changes people, then people change things.  Through prayer God equips and empowers us to do His bidding throughout the world.

As we gain more and more knowledge about prayer, the more we should want to do it.  Life brings hardships and suffering it also brings joy and happiness. Either way, having a direct connection to our creator is a privilege.  It is a privilege that we do not take advantage of nearly as much as we should.  Prayer is an opportunity to humble ourselves and worship God in a way that no other creature on this earth ever can.  Does God need our prayers?  Not so much. Does He want us to pray and talk to Him? Absolutely.

One interesting fact that I’d like to leave you with is that the only thing the disciples asked Jesus to teach them to do was to pray.  They must have understood and seen first hand the power and significance in prayer and they wanted to know how to do it too.  Before you do anything else, after reading this I want you to have ‘The Talk’ with God.  If nothing else, tell Him thank you.  Try it and I guarantee you’ll love how you feel afterwards.  Praying to our Heavenly Father will not hurt you.  Not only will you find peace in talking to Him, the more you do it, the more you will feel His presence in your life.  You will feel love because God is love.  So go ahead and have ‘The Talk’, it’s way overdue. #iDeclare #thetalk



Father God, please forgive me Lord for not praying like I should.  I decree and declare that I will be a prayer warrior.  I will humble myself and pray and talk to my Heavenly Father so that I can grow more and build our relationship.  Thank you for the opportunity to pray and seek Your face.  I will take advantage of every opportunity I get to talk with You.  In Jesus name, Amen.


Scripture Reference:

Matthew 7:7-8 NIV ““Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

Luke 11:1-4 NKJV “Now it came to pass, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased, that one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.” So He said to them, “When you pray, say: Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come.Your will be done On earth as it is in heaven. Give us day by day our daily bread. And forgive us our sins, For we also forgive everyone who is indebted to us. And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one.”